Dear Mrs. Hall,
Dear Mrs. Hall,
I read your blog post, FYI (if you’re a teenage girl) this morning at the recommendation of two really lovely people who shared it on Facebook. They agreed wholeheartedly with your position and, to a degree, I do as well.
We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow – you sure took a bunch of selfies in your pajamas this summer! Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.
I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.
I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout. What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.
Teenage girls should definitely NOT post compromising photos of themselves on social media sites.
Before I continue, let me say that you appear to have lovely, fun-loving, well-managed sons and one cutie-patootie of a daughter. I feel as if you wrote this with a pure heart filled with concern for your boys and the girls that are growing up with them.
I know a thing or two about the dynamics of a large family tree and as the mother of four boys and one teenage girl, I feel doubly qualified to share my opinion of your letter. It occurred to me to write this in the comments section of your post, but I thought it more consistent to just go ahead and use you as a platform for my opinion the same way you exploited the teenage female friend(s) of your sons.
Let’s start there. With that.
It feels as if you know these girls personally. Austin is a big place, but you seem like the kind of mom who would know their children’s friends and taking into consideration the sharing of photos, it’s an easy leap. Did you contact the girl or girls mentioned to share your disappointment personally or was it more expedient and humiliating to just lay them bare on the pages of your blog?
Perhaps you know their parents. The specific examples you use, sexy posing in pajamas without a bra and posing in a towel, would trouble most any adult. And yet, I wonder, did the parents of this girl (or girls) actually see your letter? Did this missile meet its mark? Did you reach out to them first, before hitting ‘publish’?
As I said before, I believe your concern is true and legitimate, but you make no mention of any action on your part that fulfills the intent of your words. Setting your son up to explain this to a girl he has media-blocked accomplishes what? “My mom made me do it.” The measure of your meaning is completely lost. And therefore, so is your motive for writing this … which is to bring about change, right? Not to just go on a non-specific, self-righteous rant about how your sons are better than their scantily clad counterparts? I certainly hope your sons and mine never do anything so scandalous as to go braless.
But if they do … when they do …
And so, in our house, there are no second chances, ladies. If you want to stay friendly with the Hall men, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent. If you try to post a sexy selfie, or an inappropriate YouTube video – even once – you’ll be booted off our on-line island.
I know that sounds harsh and old-school, but that’s just the way it is under this roof for a while. We hope to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity don’t linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls.
Wow. No second chances.
On your About Me page you say, “In my current role at All Saints PCA, I get to combine so many of my heart’s true loves: writing to the saints, cheering on the church, ransacking God’s Word, teaching, gathering, and walking with women in all stages of life and faith – reminding them that Jesus loves them. I couldn’t enjoy it one drop more.”
Banished from the Island of Hall for an indiscretion and blackballed for life. That would totally remind me that Jesus loves me.
You close with this:
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy.
You are growing into a real beauty, inside and out.
Act like her, speak like her, post like her.
I agree that our boys deserve to have women of character in their lives.
And so, Mrs. Hall, I offer you your own advice: Act like her. Speak like her. Post like her.
I wish we were friends (to discuss this face-to-face),